The epiphany I had was that these gaming binges corresponded to the periods in my life when things in the real world weren’t going my way. I was using video games as a security blanket.
Games, especially modern ones, revolve around the principle that if you put the time in, you will be rewarded.
…So it’s easy to understand why someone that feels powerless in the real world would turn to virtual worlds.
…There is absolutely nothing inherently wrong with video games. Besides all the legitimate leisure-related reasons to enjoy the hobby I touched on above (and leisure time is absolutely essential), games also create safe spaces for people, especially kids, to experiment and express themselves. They provide safe, consequence-free places to fail.
Video games also help players discover things about themselves. What kind of person do you want to be? When given free range to make dialogue choices or build a world, what do you create? People that would never pick up a paintbrush can do incredible things when given the right tools.
All the good that games can do aside, what I have learned is that it’s important for gamers to understand their own motivations. I don’t believe anyone needs to stop playing video games, or necessarily even cut back. But everyone should strive to understand his or her own compulsions."